Dear Readers, In February 2011, when I wrote my first post on Sharing Closet Space, I was engaged, planning a wedding, and ready to share all things marriage- and wedding-related. I came up with the a metaphor about learning how … Continue reading
Originally posted on Glenn Pendlay:
Why? Well it started in Guatemala last week. I was eating in the weightlifting chow hall with Donny Shankle and thinking about the food. The meal that day included a sort of salad. Tasted like…
(The only trouble with this quote is that I don’t think she was talking about the actual cost of a wedding…)
I’ve come to the conclusion that no one really knows how to plan a wedding. Okay, maybe professional wedding planners have a clue. But, for those of us normal people who can’t afford to pay an extra ten grand on top of the ridiculous sums required for a traditional wedding hullabaloo, it’s pretty much all guesswork.
I started out really on top of things. I opened an account on theknot.com, made a detailed budget, collected names and addresses for the guest list, etc. But, as the time quickly approaches (three months from yesterday!), and I’ve crossed all the big things off my list, I find myself suddenly at a stand still. I know there are things to do. But what are they? And when should I do them? Is it too early to buy the unity candle? to make the ringbearer pillow? to choose the reception menu? to weave the ribbon through the flower girl basket? When should I buy the candy for our favor bags? When should we order the flowers we’re doing ourselves? Do I need to contact the florist just to check in?
I’m finding that this time–this not-to-close, not-to-far time–is the most stressful yet. By the time I become an expert at this wedding planning stuff, the day will have come and gone, and I’ll never have a chance to use these acquired skills. Well, not for a loooooong time until my own daughter gets married, that is. And heck, by that time, she’ll probably want to get married in a floating hover-church and my knowledge of weddings will be 100% obsolete.
So, this afternoon, I’m sitting down with my mom to create a master To-Do list. I’ll share with you when I’m done…
I thought I’d give you a quick update on my new fitness plan. Since my original blog post, I’ve met with my trainer twice more, and attended two more small group training sessions. Although I can definitely see an impact on my bank account, I’ve decided that trading two random clothing purchases for two personal training sessions is probably a pretty good swap–and definitely a healthier one.
I always thought that if I hired a personal trainer just once, then I could use the workout they created, well… forever. But, besides getting just plain bored, I would now insist that variation and progression is the key. Every time I do a workout, I try to tweak one thing–at least one thing–to make it a little more difficult. Maybe squeak out an extra push-up on every set, or increase the weight on a machine by five pounds. Or maybe I do an extra minute or five of cardio. This is all well and good, but it gets to a point where you’re cranking out 5,000 reps of each exercise and running for 3 hours. And, personally, I like to change it up before getting to that point. That’s exactly why I’m continuing to work with my trainer. Every two weeks, I get a brand new workout to try–and, again, one created for me, with my goals (wedding arms and Hawaii abs) in mind.
I’ve also tracked my food in my own food journal fairly regularly. If you’re not a fan of calorie counting and tedious number crunching, I challenge you to just keep a food journal. It can be as simple as jotting down what you eat each day on a Post-It note. Or, you could keep it in a Word document. Or, heck, create a private blog and record your feasting. Somehow, just writing it down holds me enough accountable that when I spy a plate of Oreos in the teachers’ lounge, I can pass it up.
Another thing that’s helped me a lot is to set a goal each week (P.S., I don’t think you should ever make your goal weight loss related, i.e. “Lose 2 pounds.” Our bodies do crazy things when it comes to weight. You don’t want a little water weight or salt retention to kill your motivation. Your goal should be something you control, not a little electronic box). Two weeks ago, my goal was to plan ahead. I actually went through my food journal and wrote in my “splurges” for the week ahead of time. Then, I could keep in mind when a certain event, occasion, or trip to Orange Leaf was coming up, and it would help me keep focus. Last week, my goal was to get my eight servings of fruits and veggies in each day. Alongside my journaling, I just numbered each serving to keep track. Plain and simple.
This week, my goal is back to plan ahead. That’s one I have trouble with. I’m always happy to splurge, so if I work them out ahead of time, I have an easier time turning down other tempting goodies.
So far, I’m loving this easy-going plan. The scale is showing good news (I’ve lost about four pounds since the beginning of the year) and I’ve shrunk by a few inches (about 1.5 from my waist and hips at last measurement).
I’m not going to lie to you. I do have weight goal in mind for the wedding day. But, even more so, I want to feel like I’m at my best. So, if I’m not quite down to my secret number, I know that by continuing to be health-conscious and do what I know is right for my body, I’ll feel strong, sexy, and confident as we start our married life.